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Silence on Silence Day
  – Jenny Keating

Burned by Beauty
  – Buck Busfield

CCCs
  – Billy Goodrum

Amartithi
  – Bruce Felknor

"You'll find Me in the garden"
  – Jenny Keating

'Heart Tires of Its Gaudy Dress' – Francis Brabazon
  – Buck Busfield

HOLLYWOOD
  – Billy Goodrum

Trust and Intimacy
  – Jenny Keating

Living with Baba
  – Bruce Felknor

When Words Fail . . . Just Use More Words
  – Buck Busfield

Suffering and Service
  – Juniper Lesnik

SPOILER ALERT
  – Billy Goodrum

The charm of His ways. . .
  – Jenny Keating

The Importance of Being Furnished
  – Bruce Felknor

It's Been Fun
  – Steve Klein

Let’s Talk about Love
  – Juniper Lesnik

Cannes
  – Billy Goodrum

In the world but not of it . . .
  – Jenny Keating

Give Me Your Imperfections
  – Wendy Connor

Children of the One God
  – Bruce Felknor

As the Poet Says
  – Steve Klein

Happy Endings
  – Jenny Keating

Thoughts on Furniture
  – Billy Goodrum

Going Home
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Tale of Two Connections
  – Bruce Felknor

The Flowering Seed
  – Wendy Connor

Baby Steps
  – Steve Klein

Patience
  – Jenny Keating

Hold On!
  – Juniper Lesnik

Waiting for the New Humanity
  – Billy Goodrum

Remembering
  – Bruce Felknor

The Beloved's Beloved
  – Wendy Connor

Compare and Contrast
  – Steve Klein

It's in the struggle . . .
  – Jenny Keating

Time
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Tipping Point
  – Billy Goodrum

Learning Poise
  – Bruce Felknor

When "Good Enough" Isn't
  – Steve Klein

Conflict and Joy
  – Jenny Keating

Sleepless in San Jose
  – Juniper Lesnik

Vacation Incarnation
  – Steve Klein

Nerve Endings of the Soul
  – Jenny Keating

"Let the World Wait"
  – Wendy Connor

Religion vs Spirituality
  – Steve Klein

The Bigger Challenge
  – Wendy Connor

Que Sera Sera
  – Steve Klein

To Be Honest
  – Juniper Lesnik

Praise and Blame
  – Steve Klein

Being Right
  – Steve Klein

To Love God is To Love Our Fellow Beings
  – Juniper Lesnik

God is Alive in the World
  – Wendy Connor

Determined to Be His
  – Steve Klein

The Stuff We're Made Of
  – Juniper Lesnik

"I Will Always Be With You": Memories of the East West Gathering
  – Wendy Connor

Half Full or Half Empty?
  – Steve Klein

Love The One You're With
  – Steve Klein

Ordinary Life
  – Juniper Lesnik

Baba Loved Us Too
  – Wendy Connor

Feeling His Love
  – Steve Klein

He is both Father and Mother
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Leap of Faith
  – Wendy Connor

Becoming His
  – Steve Klein

Don't Worry, Be Happy
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Life Worth Living
  – Wendy Connor

Love The One You're With
  – Steve Klein

What a Mighty Beloved our Beloved is
  – Wendy Connor

To thine own self be true?
  – Steve Klein

The Sweets of His Love
  – Wendy Connor

Sickness and Health
  – Juniper Lesnik

Giving Advice
  – Steve Klein

"Garlic-Faced"
  – Wendy Connor

To Love and Be Loved
  – Juniper Lesnik

Talking About The Truth
  – Steve Klein

The Script was Written Long Ago
  – Wendy Connor

Excuse Me, Which Way to God?
  – Steve Klein

Letting Go
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Mosquitoes are Bad Today
  – Wendy Connor

What If A Teaching Moment Never Comes?
  – Steve Klein

Beads On One String
  – Juniper Lesnik

Youth Sahavas '07
  – Wendy Connor

Stop, You're Both Right!
  – Steve Klein

God, Please Give me a Job
  – Juniper Lesnik

"It Just Passes More Quickly"
  – Wendy Connor

Multiple Meher Babas
  – Steve Klein

Winking Back
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Treasure Within
  – Wendy Connor

Holding On, But Losing One's Grip
  – Steve Klein

1969
  – Ann Conlon

Obedience
  – Ann Conlon

Meher Center – The Way It Was
  – Ann Conlon

Armageddon, Anyone?
  – Ann Conlon

What Does Baba Want Me to Do?
  – Ann Conlon

Baba's 'Things'
  – Ann Conlon

The Way It Was – Meherabad
  – Ann Conlon

What Does THAT Mean?
  – Ann Conlon

Doing "Baba Work"
  – Ann Conlon

Broken Heads
  – Ann Conlon

Enid
  – Ann Conlon

On Being Ill
  – Ann Conlon

To Each His Own
  – Ann Conlon

Meherjee
  – Ann Conlon

Youth Sahavas
  – Ann Conlon

Kitty
  – Ann Conlon

The Lonely Path
  – Ann Conlon

Isn't He Enough?
  – Ann Conlon

He Said What?
  – Ann Conlon

Goher
  – Ann Conlon

Taking a Dare
  – Ann Conlon

Seeking Suffering
  – Ann Conlon

Dreams
  – Ann Conlon

Amartithi
  – Ann Conlon

Margaret
  – Ann Conlon

"The Disciple"
  – Ann Conlon

I Wonder ...
  – Ann Conlon

Backbiting, etc.
  – Ann Conlon

Hearing His Name
  – Ann Conlon

Rites, Rituals and Ceremonies
  – Ann Conlon

"Baba's Group"
  – Ann Conlon

His Promise
  – Ann Conlon

Then and Now
  – Ann Conlon

Middlemen Revisited
  – Ann Conlon

Padri
  – Ann Conlon

Gateway Days
  – Ann Conlon

The New Life
  – Ann Conlon

Books, Books and More Books
  – Ann Conlon

Elizabeth Patterson
  – Ann Conlon

His "Last Warning"
  – Ann Conlon

Detachment
  – Ann Conlon

Is That A Religion Coming?
  – Ann Conlon

Manifestation: Did He Or Didn't He?
  – Ann Conlon

A Country of Our Own?
  – Ann Conlon

Remembering Mohammed
  – Ann Conlon

Advice (Sort-Of) for Newcomers
  – Ann Conlon

You're a Baba Lover If...
  – Ann Conlon

Real Happiness
  – Ann Conlon

Baba Lover, Baba Follower or Both?
  – Ann Conlon

Meherazad – The Way It Was
  – Ann Conlon

The Strongest Memories
  – Ann Conlon

All (Baba) Things Considered

The Bigger Challenge

I remember Kitty often used to say, “Baba loved challenges; that is His way of working.” Somehow, it’s easier for me to see Baba’s Hand in the big challenges rather than the day-to-day ones. When something happens that I clearly have no control over—like a hurricane, or a car accident, or an unexpected death of someone I love—there is no doubt in my heart that, while I may not understand what is happening, I know He is at work and that what He wants is for me to surrender my fears and worries and trust Him.

For me, the harder challenges are the ordinary ones, the seemingly small ones that crop up on a daily basis—like dealing with people and their personalities. It is amazing to me how much of the spiritual path is about looking at myself first and being honest about my own failings instead of pointing fingers at others.

Of course, I realize Baba arranges things so that we are purposefully placed with people who will push our buttons. This appears to be one of the main ways He cleans house. It’s His role, Baba’s explained, to bring to the surface the well of impressions that surround the journeying soul. The obvious vehicles He uses for this process, it seems, are the natural places our karma takes us. And so, every situation or person is a possible target for the Clandestine One to stir up the ego so we can surrender what is there and He can take it from us. It appears that the real purpose of this frequently annoying arrangement, is that I have to deal with my own personality!

Once, when Buz and I were traveling to India with Kitty, we were accompanied by an older woman who really loved Kitty, and of whom Kitty was very fond. However, I found her ways of doing things very pushy and irritating, and well, not the way I would have done them. It got to the point where I just wanted to burst, and tell her everything she was doing to make things difficult for everyone. Being in the atmosphere of Meherazad and Meherabad Baba somehow got through to me. I felt Him say inwardly, ‘just let it go and see her good qualities.’ Because of His love, I was able to appreciate her love for Kitty and then, in turn, to feel love for her. After that, her personality never bothered me again. All along, the problem with her was me. I remember Elizabeth saying, “Baba doesn’t resolve problems, He dissolves them!”

So herein lies the bigger challenge—it’s much easier for me to be critical of the other person than it is to stop and think that the real problem might be something in myself. Sometimes I will be with someone who does or says something that is clearly wrong, (in my eyes, that is), and I find myself wanting to correct that person. Of course, in some cases, it may be appropriate and necessary for me to do so, and, if it is, then my job is to try to do it in a light and loving manner. On the other hand, it might just be that I am being self-righteous and feel I know best, that ‘truth and justice’ are at stake and I have to set things straight. This is when I find myself stuck in the great jungle of me, and only by remembering Baba can I hack my way through this tangled mess.

What to do? I had been told my whole life that we should look for the best in people, that Baba was in everyone. But this is easier said than done. Once, on one of our trips to India, something Eruch said to me and Buz put a different spin on this idea of looking for the best in people. It was on one of our treasured early morning walks at Meherazad when Eruch recalled something Baba had said long ago. He said: "To love Me is to love all. To love all is not to love Me. To love Me in all is to love Me.” Then He asked those close ones gathered around Him, “How do you do this?” Answering His own question, Baba said, “Be mindful of the goodness in everyone, for I am Infinite Goodness.” Then He added, “Leave the crap to Me, I’ll take care of the crap.”

Somehow hearing Baba refer to Himself as the ‘Infinite Goodness’ in each person made it seem more possible for me to find the best in people. And, even better, knowing that Baba would take care of people’s crap—that I didn’t have to worry about the stuff I didn’t like or the stuff I wished were different about someone. I was off the hook. I didn’t have to fix the other person!

Once when we were complaining to Mani, Baba’s sister, about how unkind someone had been to our family, she told us something her father had said to her years before. One day, her mother, Shireenmai, had come home from being out in the community (in Pune where they lived), and was very upset about the things people were saying about her husband, Sheriar, and Merwan. Her husband had been recently swindled out of his business by his business partner, and people were commenting on how imprudent he had been. And now their son, Merwan, was going about Maharastra claiming to be a spiritual master. Shireenmai was livid. Sheriar said to her: "What do you do when you see a pile of rubbish on the side of the road? Do you stop and put your face in the rubbish and cover yourself with it? No, you keep on walking and pass it by. So you must do the same when people are unkind or cruel. Ignore them; walk away. Take His Name and leave them to God.”

It’s always best to let Baba have the last word:
“Remember that the first step in spirituality is not to speak ill of others. All human beings have weaknesses and faults. Yet they are all God in their being. Until they become Realized, they have their imperfections. Therefore, before trying to find faults in others and speaking ill of them, try to find your own weaknesses and correct them.“ Meher Baba