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Silence on Silence Day
  – Jenny Keating

Burned by Beauty
  – Buck Busfield

CCCs
  – Billy Goodrum

Amartithi
  – Bruce Felknor

"You'll find Me in the garden"
  – Jenny Keating

'Heart Tires of Its Gaudy Dress' – Francis Brabazon
  – Buck Busfield

HOLLYWOOD
  – Billy Goodrum

Trust and Intimacy
  – Jenny Keating

Living with Baba
  – Bruce Felknor

When Words Fail . . . Just Use More Words
  – Buck Busfield

Suffering and Service
  – Juniper Lesnik

SPOILER ALERT
  – Billy Goodrum

The charm of His ways. . .
  – Jenny Keating

The Importance of Being Furnished
  – Bruce Felknor

It's Been Fun
  – Steve Klein

Let’s Talk about Love
  – Juniper Lesnik

Cannes
  – Billy Goodrum

In the world but not of it . . .
  – Jenny Keating

Give Me Your Imperfections
  – Wendy Connor

Children of the One God
  – Bruce Felknor

As the Poet Says
  – Steve Klein

Happy Endings
  – Jenny Keating

Thoughts on Furniture
  – Billy Goodrum

Going Home
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Tale of Two Connections
  – Bruce Felknor

The Flowering Seed
  – Wendy Connor

Baby Steps
  – Steve Klein

Patience
  – Jenny Keating

Hold On!
  – Juniper Lesnik

Waiting for the New Humanity
  – Billy Goodrum

Remembering
  – Bruce Felknor

The Beloved's Beloved
  – Wendy Connor

Compare and Contrast
  – Steve Klein

It's in the struggle . . .
  – Jenny Keating

Time
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Tipping Point
  – Billy Goodrum

Learning Poise
  – Bruce Felknor

When "Good Enough" Isn't
  – Steve Klein

Conflict and Joy
  – Jenny Keating

Sleepless in San Jose
  – Juniper Lesnik

Vacation Incarnation
  – Steve Klein

Nerve Endings of the Soul
  – Jenny Keating

"Let the World Wait"
  – Wendy Connor

Religion vs Spirituality
  – Steve Klein

The Bigger Challenge
  – Wendy Connor

Que Sera Sera
  – Steve Klein

To Be Honest
  – Juniper Lesnik

Praise and Blame
  – Steve Klein

Being Right
  – Steve Klein

To Love God is To Love Our Fellow Beings
  – Juniper Lesnik

God is Alive in the World
  – Wendy Connor

Determined to Be His
  – Steve Klein

The Stuff We're Made Of
  – Juniper Lesnik

"I Will Always Be With You": Memories of the East West Gathering
  – Wendy Connor

Half Full or Half Empty?
  – Steve Klein

Love The One You're With
  – Steve Klein

Ordinary Life
  – Juniper Lesnik

Baba Loved Us Too
  – Wendy Connor

Feeling His Love
  – Steve Klein

He is both Father and Mother
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Leap of Faith
  – Wendy Connor

Becoming His
  – Steve Klein

Don't Worry, Be Happy
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Life Worth Living
  – Wendy Connor

Love The One You're With
  – Steve Klein

What a Mighty Beloved our Beloved is
  – Wendy Connor

To thine own self be true?
  – Steve Klein

The Sweets of His Love
  – Wendy Connor

Sickness and Health
  – Juniper Lesnik

Giving Advice
  – Steve Klein

"Garlic-Faced"
  – Wendy Connor

To Love and Be Loved
  – Juniper Lesnik

Talking About The Truth
  – Steve Klein

The Script was Written Long Ago
  – Wendy Connor

Excuse Me, Which Way to God?
  – Steve Klein

Letting Go
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Mosquitoes are Bad Today
  – Wendy Connor

What If A Teaching Moment Never Comes?
  – Steve Klein

Beads On One String
  – Juniper Lesnik

Youth Sahavas '07
  – Wendy Connor

Stop, You're Both Right!
  – Steve Klein

God, Please Give me a Job
  – Juniper Lesnik

"It Just Passes More Quickly"
  – Wendy Connor

Multiple Meher Babas
  – Steve Klein

Winking Back
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Treasure Within
  – Wendy Connor

Holding On, But Losing One's Grip
  – Steve Klein

1969
  – Ann Conlon

Obedience
  – Ann Conlon

Meher Center – The Way It Was
  – Ann Conlon

Armageddon, Anyone?
  – Ann Conlon

What Does Baba Want Me to Do?
  – Ann Conlon

Baba's 'Things'
  – Ann Conlon

The Way It Was – Meherabad
  – Ann Conlon

What Does THAT Mean?
  – Ann Conlon

Doing "Baba Work"
  – Ann Conlon

Broken Heads
  – Ann Conlon

Enid
  – Ann Conlon

On Being Ill
  – Ann Conlon

To Each His Own
  – Ann Conlon

Meherjee
  – Ann Conlon

Youth Sahavas
  – Ann Conlon

Kitty
  – Ann Conlon

The Lonely Path
  – Ann Conlon

Isn't He Enough?
  – Ann Conlon

He Said What?
  – Ann Conlon

Goher
  – Ann Conlon

Taking a Dare
  – Ann Conlon

Seeking Suffering
  – Ann Conlon

Dreams
  – Ann Conlon

Amartithi
  – Ann Conlon

Margaret
  – Ann Conlon

"The Disciple"
  – Ann Conlon

I Wonder ...
  – Ann Conlon

Backbiting, etc.
  – Ann Conlon

Hearing His Name
  – Ann Conlon

Rites, Rituals and Ceremonies
  – Ann Conlon

"Baba's Group"
  – Ann Conlon

His Promise
  – Ann Conlon

Then and Now
  – Ann Conlon

Middlemen Revisited
  – Ann Conlon

Padri
  – Ann Conlon

Gateway Days
  – Ann Conlon

The New Life
  – Ann Conlon

Books, Books and More Books
  – Ann Conlon

Elizabeth Patterson
  – Ann Conlon

His "Last Warning"
  – Ann Conlon

Detachment
  – Ann Conlon

Is That A Religion Coming?
  – Ann Conlon

Manifestation: Did He Or Didn't He?
  – Ann Conlon

A Country of Our Own?
  – Ann Conlon

Remembering Mohammed
  – Ann Conlon

Advice (Sort-Of) for Newcomers
  – Ann Conlon

You're a Baba Lover If...
  – Ann Conlon

Real Happiness
  – Ann Conlon

Baba Lover, Baba Follower or Both?
  – Ann Conlon

Meherazad – The Way It Was
  – Ann Conlon

The Strongest Memories
  – Ann Conlon

All (Baba) Things Considered

Becoming His

Eruch used to say that Baba accepts us as we are, not in spite of who we are. Given how some of us are, if we haven't experienced this acceptance for ourselves, this may seem hard to believe. A doubt reinforced by the fact that Baba, in His writings and messages, seems to constantly emphasize the need for His lovers to discard the selfish habits of their lower selves.

On the surface, this seems like Baba is asking us to change and is a contradiction of Eruch's statement, but I don't think this is really the case for two reasons. First of all, Baba does accept people as they are. When one reads of people's accounts of meeting Baba, one is struck by two common threads. One is of recognition and familiarity: people often felt as if they had known Baba for ages, that they were meeting a long lost friend. And people felt that Baba knew everything about them, their weaknesses, their impure thoughts, and yet it didn't make any difference, for His love was unconditional.

Even today, when people meet Baba internally, this overwhelming sense of unconditional acceptance is what they describe. And secondly, Baba doesn't demand that we change, as much as He encourages and inspires us to transform ourselves and become who we really are.

In short, the first thing Baba does is accept us as we are. And only once Baba has done this, does His love inspire us to become something else. This creates in us a very different dynamic than were Baba to simply accept us in spite of our faults. I think this is crucial because only after feeling that we are fully accepted for who we are, can we begin the arduous task of changing who we are. We would not have the self confidence that comes from total acceptance.

When we don't feel totally accepted, we are uncomfortable with ourselves and this often manifests by our denying our weaknesses, or trying to overlook them. Changing them, however, requires that we recognize them for what they are. When we begin to get an idea of just how vast they are, we are overwhelmed and we suspect that nobody could accept us if they knew just how bad we were. So we start pretending to be good, which is not the same as working on our weaknesses, instead it's merely trying to improve our strengths.

But Baba's total acceptance of us gives us the confidence to accept ourselves fully. And once we do that, we then have the internal fortitude to recognize and acknowledge our weaknesses. Instead of trying to hide them, we can allow them to surface. In fact, Baba's presence often brings with it, a sudden awareness of weaknesses we didn't even know we had.

Yet this awareness is not accompanied by criticism on Baba's part. Baba does not condemn us for having weaknesses, rather He attempts to show us how we can overcome them. By not demanding that we change, Baba actually makes it easier for us to do it. Baba's acceptance of us makes us the agents of change. And trying to change because we want to has a different dynamic from trying to change because someone else is suggesting that we need to.

Because Baba accepts us as we are, we end up wanting to change out of our love for Him or to remove those obstacles which are obstructing our love.

Instead of secretly wishing to indulge our weaknesses, we now find them burdensome and become eager to be able to abandon them, and this is the first step to actually overcoming them. Of course, there is still the tricky bit about burning them up in the fire of conscious awareness and intelligent action but this, at least, becomes potentially possible once we feel so deeply accepted that we have the courage to face our weaknesses without turning away.

Baba's unconditional love not only gives us the self confidence for this task, it also give us the motivation to attempt it and the stamina to put up with the long arduous process of accomplishing it.

So, although Baba accepts us as we are, at the same time He is constantly encouraging us to become something else. And if this seems like a contradiction, we have to remember one of Adi K Irani's favorite sayings, "Contradictions that are denounced by logic are embraced by love."