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CCCs
  – Billy Goodrum

Amartithi
  – Bruce Felknor

"You'll find Me in the garden"
  – Jenny Keating

'Heart Tires of Its Gaudy Dress' – Francis Brabazon
  – Buck Busfield

HOLLYWOOD
  – Billy Goodrum

Trust and Intimacy
  – Jenny Keating

Living with Baba
  – Bruce Felknor

When Words Fail . . . Just Use More Words
  – Buck Busfield

Suffering and Service
  – Juniper Lesnik

SPOILER ALERT
  – Billy Goodrum

The charm of His ways. . .
  – Jenny Keating

The Importance of Being Furnished
  – Bruce Felknor

It's Been Fun
  – Steve Klein

Let’s Talk about Love
  – Juniper Lesnik

Cannes
  – Billy Goodrum

In the world but not of it . . .
  – Jenny Keating

Give Me Your Imperfections
  – Wendy Connor

Children of the One God
  – Bruce Felknor

As the Poet Says
  – Steve Klein

Happy Endings
  – Jenny Keating

Thoughts on Furniture
  – Billy Goodrum

Going Home
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Tale of Two Connections
  – Bruce Felknor

The Flowering Seed
  – Wendy Connor

Baby Steps
  – Steve Klein

Patience
  – Jenny Keating

Hold On!
  – Juniper Lesnik

Waiting for the New Humanity
  – Billy Goodrum

Remembering
  – Bruce Felknor

The Beloved's Beloved
  – Wendy Connor

Compare and Contrast
  – Steve Klein

It's in the struggle . . .
  – Jenny Keating

Time
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Tipping Point
  – Billy Goodrum

Learning Poise
  – Bruce Felknor

When "Good Enough" Isn't
  – Steve Klein

Conflict and Joy
  – Jenny Keating

Sleepless in San Jose
  – Juniper Lesnik

Vacation Incarnation
  – Steve Klein

Nerve Endings of the Soul
  – Jenny Keating

"Let the World Wait"
  – Wendy Connor

Religion vs Spirituality
  – Steve Klein

The Bigger Challenge
  – Wendy Connor

Que Sera Sera
  – Steve Klein

To Be Honest
  – Juniper Lesnik

Praise and Blame
  – Steve Klein

Being Right
  – Steve Klein

To Love God is To Love Our Fellow Beings
  – Juniper Lesnik

God is Alive in the World
  – Wendy Connor

Determined to Be His
  – Steve Klein

The Stuff We're Made Of
  – Juniper Lesnik

"I Will Always Be With You": Memories of the East West Gathering
  – Wendy Connor

Half Full or Half Empty?
  – Steve Klein

Love The One You're With
  – Steve Klein

Ordinary Life
  – Juniper Lesnik

Baba Loved Us Too
  – Wendy Connor

Feeling His Love
  – Steve Klein

He is both Father and Mother
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Leap of Faith
  – Wendy Connor

Becoming His
  – Steve Klein

Don't Worry, Be Happy
  – Juniper Lesnik

A Life Worth Living
  – Wendy Connor

Love The One You're With
  – Steve Klein

What a Mighty Beloved our Beloved is
  – Wendy Connor

To thine own self be true?
  – Steve Klein

The Sweets of His Love
  – Wendy Connor

Sickness and Health
  – Juniper Lesnik

Giving Advice
  – Steve Klein

"Garlic-Faced"
  – Wendy Connor

To Love and Be Loved
  – Juniper Lesnik

Talking About The Truth
  – Steve Klein

The Script was Written Long Ago
  – Wendy Connor

Excuse Me, Which Way to God?
  – Steve Klein

Letting Go
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Mosquitoes are Bad Today
  – Wendy Connor

What If A Teaching Moment Never Comes?
  – Steve Klein

Beads On One String
  – Juniper Lesnik

Youth Sahavas '07
  – Wendy Connor

Stop, You're Both Right!
  – Steve Klein

God, Please Give me a Job
  – Juniper Lesnik

"It Just Passes More Quickly"
  – Wendy Connor

Multiple Meher Babas
  – Steve Klein

Winking Back
  – Juniper Lesnik

The Treasure Within
  – Wendy Connor

Holding On, But Losing One's Grip
  – Steve Klein

1969
  – Ann Conlon

Obedience
  – Ann Conlon

Meher Center – The Way It Was
  – Ann Conlon

Armageddon, Anyone?
  – Ann Conlon

What Does Baba Want Me to Do?
  – Ann Conlon

Baba's 'Things'
  – Ann Conlon

What Does THAT Mean?
  – Ann Conlon

The Way It Was – Meherabad
  – Ann Conlon

Broken Heads
  – Ann Conlon

Doing "Baba Work"
  – Ann Conlon

On Being Ill
  – Ann Conlon

Enid
  – Ann Conlon

To Each His Own
  – Ann Conlon

Meherjee
  – Ann Conlon

Youth Sahavas
  – Ann Conlon

Kitty
  – Ann Conlon

The Lonely Path
  – Ann Conlon

Isn't He Enough?
  – Ann Conlon

He Said What?
  – Ann Conlon

Goher
  – Ann Conlon

Taking a Dare
  – Ann Conlon

Seeking Suffering
  – Ann Conlon

Dreams
  – Ann Conlon

Amartithi
  – Ann Conlon

Margaret
  – Ann Conlon

"The Disciple"
  – Ann Conlon

I Wonder ...
  – Ann Conlon

Backbiting, etc.
  – Ann Conlon

Hearing His Name
  – Ann Conlon

Rites, Rituals and Ceremonies
  – Ann Conlon

"Baba's Group"
  – Ann Conlon

His Promise
  – Ann Conlon

Then and Now
  – Ann Conlon

Middlemen Revisited
  – Ann Conlon

Padri
  – Ann Conlon

Gateway Days
  – Ann Conlon

The New Life
  – Ann Conlon

Books, Books and More Books
  – Ann Conlon

Elizabeth Patterson
  – Ann Conlon

His "Last Warning"
  – Ann Conlon

Detachment
  – Ann Conlon

Is That A Religion Coming?
  – Ann Conlon

Manifestation: Did He Or Didn't He?
  – Ann Conlon

A Country of Our Own?
  – Ann Conlon

Remembering Mohammed
  – Ann Conlon

Advice (Sort-Of) for Newcomers
  – Ann Conlon

You're a Baba Lover If...
  – Ann Conlon

Real Happiness
  – Ann Conlon

Baba Lover, Baba Follower or Both?
  – Ann Conlon

Meherazad – The Way It Was
  – Ann Conlon

The Strongest Memories
  – Ann Conlon

All (Baba) Things Considered

To Love and Be Loved

When asked what they want out of life, many people, spiritual and secular, answer: to love and be loved. It sounds so simple. Yet the desire to experience love often leads people down roads marked with confusion, longing, and heartache. If Love is all there is, why is our quest for it often so rocky?

On the opening page of The Everything and The Nothing, Meher Baba explains that Love must love and to love there must be a Lover and a Beloved. But since God is Infinite, He must imagine Himself as the Beloved in order to express the eternal Love that He is. Meher Baba goes on to explain that the experience of a Lover and a Beloved implies separation, which causes longing and search. And that is when longing is most intense that the experience of separateness is complete and the purpose of creating a Lover and a Beloved--that Love can experience itself--is fulfilled. It is with the surrender that follows that union is achieved. The longing to love and be loved, then, is the very spark that created this complicated universe we find ourselves in. And the longing so many of us feel in the core of our beings can be traced back to missing a feeling of unity with God.

Even for those of us who accept that our inner longing is none other than the pain of experiencing separateness from God, most of us yearn for love with one another--the opportunity to love and be loved in our concrete, daily lives.

Lately, I've been reflecting on the human stories of lover and beloved that we create and how He pulls the strings of our daily lives to urge us deeper into the story of what loving is all about. One thing I've noticed is that different relationships in my life have allowed me to experience different aspects of the lover/beloved dynamic--the longing of a love that cannot land, the stillness of being offered a love I cannot receive, and many things in between. Rather than dwell on the imperfections of these connections, I started to grow curious about how different glimpses of the lover/beloved dynamic were revealed by each new attempt at loving. And I have wondered how these stories prepare us to enter more deeply into the relationship of lover and beloved with God. Reading Meher Baba's discourse on Marriage, I also started to crave the unique opportunity of sustained love and commitment to one other person, no matter what.

This summer I returned to Meherabad, the place where I have learned the most about love. And I went with my fiance, Michael. I was looking forward to going to the Samadhi with him and to introducing my fiance to the remaining mandali, who are among the most loving human beings I have ever encountered. Our marriage would be more grounded, I imagined, if we could just share a few moments soaking in the atmosphere of Baba's home, basking in the glow that abides there.

Michael is a man who loves to connect and to hear about other people's experiences. Once we were engaged, he started asking people he respected for marital advice, to see what wisdom we could collect at the threshold of our life together. Meeting the women mandali was no different. With Meheru, Katie and Arnavaz, after the initial introductions were complete and they'd offered us their sweet congratulations, Michael would lean forward and say: "So, do you have any advice for us about marriage?" And the women did.

Meheru told us to "remain in His love" and that we have to keep rowing the boat in the same direction. She advised us each to keep our focus on the pleasure and happiness of the other. Katie told us that we are "Baba's gift to one another" and that there may be times we feel like running away, but to stay with it. And on our final day at Meherazad, we had a long visit with Arnavaz, whose advice, as a woman who was married to one of Baba's men mandali, I was particularly interested in hearing. She had a refrain--"no matter what"--that she tacked on to every piece of advice. "Love each other, no matter what." "Be cheerful, no matter what." And, as she beamed love at us from her bed, "Remember Baba always, no matter what." With those words in mind, I am looking forward to what this next chapter will teach me about what loving really is and how it always leads back to Him.